What i've learned: Resolution is rare

Do you ever think about what makes your favorite t.v. show so great? Is it the insane plot lines, the incredible characters, the fact that it's so much more interesting than our own lives?

Personally, I think it's the fact that in every episode, at the end of every season, and at the end of the series, you can always count on resolution. You can count on the fact that the bad guy will get what they deserve, that the "big fight" will come to an end, that the son will have a heart-to -heart with his dad, that there will be one last "hoorah", and that that one ever changing relationship will finally be able to be clearly defined.

We thrive on resolution. Something about Locke finally dying, about Michael getting back together with Holly, and Rachel opening the door and saying "I got off the plane". We love it.

We love the idea that in our own lives, there will inevitably be a time where we will have an opportunity to put it all on the table, to spell out how much we love someone, how much we care, how much someone has impacted us, or how much someone has hurt us. We like to believe that it is never too late to show our feelings, that it is never too late to make it right, that resolution is inevitable in our lives.

We want to believe that there will be an end to the "season" where everything will fall into place.

But that's not how life works. All too often that girl you've been falling for chooses a different guy, that person you've been mad at forgets who you even are, the dream that you've been waiting to turn into reality never does, the hero that you thought you needed in your life leaves without a second thought- and there is no resolution. You are left to sit there and wonder why things like this happen, why did it all turn out like this, why did that relationship start in "episode 15" only for it to end in "episode 17"? What's the point of it all?

I'm not really sure yet. I don't understand why resolution is so rare, yet so vital. All I know is that there are a lot of places in my life where I wish there was more resolution. And I can say that God knows the purpose of everything, which is true, but does that always help us who are floundering through life, waiting for something extraordinary to happen?

Maybe what really counts in life is what we do when there is no resolution- how we forgive, and how we move on. I don't know.

All I know is that in real life, Rachel would have flown straight to Paris and left Ross behind.

Because people leave each other all the time. Only on t.v. does any kind of relationship last forever.

I think that part of growing up is accepting that. But it's a hard part.